It was a learning experience for sure. For a deep conditioning product, I recommend Giovanni Nutrafix Hair Reconstructor. You can get it for a great price on www.vitacost.com. I hand typed the ingredients into EWG's Skin Deep Database before buying it and it got a great score of "2". I really like it! *
For a DIY everyday conditioner, I've tried an apple cider vinegar rinse (1 TBSP ACV with 3/4 cup water) and that seemed to soften my hair really well. I was really surprised, because I have thick, wavy, very long hair.
* I am not paid by any company. All my product reviews are based on products that I have purchased and tried myself (or samples I have picked up at a store).